Barry’s Story: A Married Man Having Homosexual Fantasies

CONFESSION: Natasha was everything that a man could want or need in a woman, and Barry considered himself a most fortunate man. He truly loved his wife and their life together exceeded any dreams he ever had of what a marriage should be. While their love life was more than satisfactory, now and then he fantasized about making love to another man. He was extremely curious to learn what the reality would be like, but he was reluctant to even mention his fantasy to Natasha for fear that she would accuse him of being gay.

CONSEQUENCE: Barry was worried that if he confessed his fantasies to his wife, she would judge him and react negatively. The most seri-ous consequence was that once the communicative channel between husband and wife were broken down on one level, other levels would follow.

STRATEGY: I helped Barry identify what exactly it was that he wanted. What he found exciting about making love to another man was the anal stimulation it involved. Barry secretly desired to be penetrated. The fact that he didn’t act on his fantasy was proof that he wasn’t really attracted to other men. I suggested he try a butt plug.

SOLUTION: Natasha agreed to use a butt plug on Barry to fulfill his fantasy. By assuming a passive role, Barry was able to surrender himself to his anal erogenous zone and experience great pleasure. Ultimately, Natasha used strap-on dildos on him and she enjoyed taking a more aggressive part in her husband’s fantasies.

BENEFITS: Barry no longer had to worry about his wife thinking he was gay, because he now knew that he wasn’t. By encouraging Barry to confess his fantasies to his wife, it fulfilled his desires need and improved their communication.

This is an excerpt from Confessions to a Sexologist: Peeking into the Sexual Secrets of America by Dr. Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D. Visit Dr. Ava’s bookstore at Loveology University — http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/BookStore.aspx?a_aid=sward