CONFESSION: At the rate Shana was going, her next orgasm might very well be her last. What had begun as an erotic need to be roughed up and verbally abused had escalated into dangerous experiments with auto asphyxiation. While in a bar one night, Shana provoked a fight with a man and had an incredible orgasm when he tried to strangle her. Now Shana found it impossible to climax unless severe violence was being inflicted upon her.
CONSEQUENCE: At the hands of the wrong man, her behavior might have led to being badly beaten and hospitalized or even worse. Auto – asphyxiation can be fatal and should be avoided. Even though she derived orgasmic pleasure from its effects, the fact that the flow of blood and oxygen to the brain is compromised, especially during sexual release, indulging in this behavior might mean death.
STRATEGY: Shana needed a professional environment in which to realize her fantasies and would benefit from associations with responsible adults who shared her fantasies. She needed to find out why she wanted to be punished and I wanted to know if she could achieve orgasm through masturbation. She had to be persuaded to direct her energies towards carefully chosen, not random partners and not to experiment with auto – asphyxiation.
SOLUTION: I impressed upon Shana the serious consequences of her behavior and she agreed to stop pursuing strangulation games. Apparently, she had no problem reaching an orgasm through masturbation. She did, however, fantasize about being whipped and punished. She confessed that, when she was young, she would misbehave just so her parents would spank her, as she found the punishment very pleasurable. Now that she was all grown up, she continued to seek punishment anywhere she could find it. Shana decided to attend a domination parlor where she met Carlton, a psychologist who was doing research on S & M. His interests complimented hers and together, they created a safe role-playing environment where Shana could get roughed up professionally and safely. As her one and only master, Carlton ordered her never to use strangulation games again and never to play with strangers.
BENEFITS: She would live longer without sacrificing her sexual desires and lower her risk of meeting “Mr. Wrong.”
This is an excerpt from Confessions to a Sexologist: Peeking into the Sexual Secrets of America by Dr. Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D. Visit Dr. Ava’s bookstore at Loveology University — http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/BookStore.aspx?a_aid=sward
Interestingly I just watched a film last night — The Comfort of Strangers — that deals with a couple so deviantly into BDSM that the only thing that will do it for them is to commit murder before making love.