The Thrill of Having Sex in Public

CONFESSION: Phyllis and Ramid discovered that the thrill of having sex in public places had put the spice back into a love life that had long since turned bland. While the adrenaline rush from these outdoor erotic escapades propelled them into a state of ecstasy beyond their wildest expectations, Ramid grew more and more concerned that he and Phyllis would get caught and, possibly, arrested. Despite this concern, neither he nor Phyllis wanted to give up a fetish that had seemed to save their marriage.

CONSEQUENCE: Fear and sexual excitement are both neurological and, therefore, it came as no surprise that the two emotions fed off one another in this case. The obvious consequence was that they might be arrested. Ramid was being responsible and realistic in keeping this in mind.

STRATEGY: As I told them, there are public places, and there are very public places. They did not need to correct their behavior, but rather to find safe places where they would not be arrested. One example was having sex in a parked car.

SOLUTION: Since they lived near the ocean, the two of them could explore the beach (and each other) after hours. While it might be a little colder in the evening, the heat of their passion would keep them warm. They could also make love at home and “accidentally” leave the curtains open, (just a little touch to add an element of excitement) providing they would not be seen by minors. I advised them to stay away from public parks and parking lots or any municipal, state, or federal buildings and directed them to recreational areas where people of similar persuasion might be. This would lessen the chance of disapproving reactions by those who randomly came upon them.

BENEFITS: This strategy maintained an outlet that was satisfactory to the partners but minimized their risk factors.

This is an excerpt from Confessions to a Sexologist: Peeking into the Sexual Secrets of America by Dr. Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D. Visit The Loveology University Bookstore to find a wealth of resources, including e-books and audiobooks, to help you have a richer and more fulfilling sex life.